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Well hey, there's a reason we're divorced! No, we never went on dates after we were married. We had a hard time finding babysitters and he didn't really want to pay someone to watch the kids while we went out. He also made the comment once "I had fun before we were married, but now I'm married and I don't need to have fun now". How screwed up is that??? I told him that I wished he'd told me before we got married that he never intended to have fun again! It was a train wreck, truly.
Married folks NEED to have dates and if they can't get out of the house, they need to at least schedule a home video night after the kids are in bed. A time when no housework is done, phone is not answered, etc. While we were in counseling, we scheduled a video date. He went out to get the video as soon as the kids were in bed. When he got home, the neighbor guys were drinking beers in the garage across the street. He didn't even come in the house, he just headed straight over there. He came in about an hour and a half later and I was fuming. I told him if he ever did that again, I was changing the locks on him. Yet, he begged me not to divorce him. Go figure.
Dee
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