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I think a good rule is, well, you wouldn't just go up to some random rushee you just met and follow her around perpetually asking her "What sorority do you like best? Are you going to be an XYZ like me?!?!? Come on, which one are you going to pick?!?! Don't leave ME hanging!!!!"; so it probably isn't okay to do it on the Internet either. If Susie Rushee volunteers something like, "Today I visited ABC, XYZ, and MNO, and I had fun at all the houses, but I'm leaning towards ABC because I seem to have a lot in common with the girls," then it's fine to offer your opinions, advice, support, congrats, etc., but it's really all about letting Susie initate it herself, and not pressuring her. It's not about your need to get your rush thread fix, it's about Susie finding a group that's right for her, and getting support and encouragement along the way. Don't get me wrong, I like reading these things as much as everyone, and I love it when the stories have happy endings, but I also think that the increasing popularity of the Internet has made people a little less aware of boundaries, I mean, since it's so easy for Sally Sister from Ole Miss to post in Susie Rushee from UCF's thread, or PM her, or whatever, then Sally's more naturally inclined to do so. Oh, and another thing.....if a girl gets cross-cut, much as people want to help, it might be a good idea to confine responses to virtual hugs, or stuff like "Sorry it didn't work out," or "Have you considered looking into the BlahBlah Club, or the Whatsit Society?" It's never a good idea to give someone false hope, because in all honesty, COB/second round of rush/AI might not work out either. I guess what I'm trying to say is, good intentions are wonderful, but it's best not to let them run amok.
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