[sageofages]

Assuming you really care as a friend, she is depressed. Losing a parent can bring on the depression.

She needs to seek outside help....in a word, counseling.

Talking about wanting to die is really a cry of help...and she cried to you. Answer the request and talk to her about what you experienced and encourage her to seek help. There is no weakness is saying "I can't cope anymore". Remind her of that.

Good luck.