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Originally posted by ariesrising
Imagine you are an international officer, you're reading the AI forum here on GC and you're reading someone's story.
You have recently been contacted by someone (or your organization with someone's information) who is interested in AI and you've emailed them and they seem nice. You start thinking - hmm, maybe it's the same person.
You discover it is - then you read in their thread that they have contacted 5 groups at once.
So now you know that this woman is likely going to be meeting with 4 other sororities in your area. If she doesn't stand out in a big way after your first meeting or email contact - whatever - what in the world would consider you to continue meeting with her?
She obviously has other plans. Back up plans...or maybe your group IS her backup.
This woman might be a good person...she might be someone, that if she had contacted only your organization, you might want to put the time and energy into meeting. She isn't Mother Teresa, but she's nice and might be a good fit.
But when all these other groups come into the equation, there's a BIG chance she might go elsewhere, because obviously she isn't too clear on what kind of group she wants, she doesn't totally love YOUR group. Since she's just "good and nice", it may not be worth it to go through all the trouble - if she was super and amazing and loved your group, it might be. But with all these other groups in the mix, it might not be worth fighting for her.
So I think GC could have a negative impact on someone's AI process.
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I guess it is just me but I would give her the benefit of the doubt. I would understand that she is looking at other groups "trying to find her home and where she fits".
Now this is not to say that later on in the relationship I wouldn't point blank ask her about it.
But in the intial stages I can understand that she is looking for the place she fits in the most. In that sense, it's like formal recruitment. First round girls go to a bunch of houses, they eliminate half of them. Does that mean we stop recruiting them and talking to them because they are interested in 5 or so other houses? No, in fact we recruit harder.
I get that AI is different but in some aspects (emphasis on some) it is the same.
But then again if I were reading her AI thread and she stated that she started talking to five groups and now she was only talking to one and I knew we were that one, cha-ching I know with almost 100% certainty that we are the one that she is interested in joining.
So GC can work both ways. Just like it can work for and against a PNM.