If you feel yourself getting punchy or pissy, take a break - go into the kitchen, don't inflict yourself on some poor PNM.
I was exhausted at the end of our last pref party, and one of the PNMs was holding a flower from one of the "top" sororities, where a big percent of our rush crushes ended up every year (back when you were allowed to send PNMs home with little tokens). She said "This is going to be so hard, I don't know where to go". She was poised and polished, and a perfect fit for the sorority whose flower she had, where we were more of a relaxed, "fun" sorority.
That was my breaking point. I looked at her and said, in what I thought was a sarcastic tone, "Oh, you know exactly where you want to go. Don't overthink it, just go with the gut," and I passed her on to someone else and stomped off to the kitchen so I wouldn't snap at some other poor PNM.
Next night at bid night she hugged me, saying "Thank you so much! When you said to go with my gut, it made the choice so easy, because I did know going into your party that ASA was exactly where I wanted to go, and I was overthinking it!"
Okay, so that one ended up alright, but that was one in a hundred - trust me - time out in the kitchen is a better then being snippy and sarcastic!
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