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Shimmer, I am so sad to hear that you are having a difficult time. Not being happy when you are a new member is very unfortunate. I would advise you to talk to your new member educator about how you are feeling. NME's are usually very capable at helping people through these issues. She might be able to match you up with an active member in the house who she thinks you might click with, so that you have a buddy to bond with over the next few weeks before initiation.
It is also really important to get to know your pledge sisters. These are the women who will be in the chapter with you for the next four years. See if they are "more real" or if there are people you can bond with. Sometimes fitting into a chapter takes a little bit of effort on the new members part.
Going through rush a second time can be really difficult or somewhat simple, depending upon the campus. On a couple of my campuses (I oversee 19), women who participate in rush after depledging are not required to go to parties at the chapter they depledged from. On others, they are required to attend and it is ackward.
I would give XYZ, and particularly your new member class, a chance. If XYZ didn't come across as fake during recruitment, chances are other members of your NM class are just as unhappy about the attitude as you are. Your class has the ability to change that atmosphere in the chapter by talking to your new member educator about your concerns and having a better attitude than the active chapter.
Good luck and keep us posted!
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