[midwesterngirl]

Originally posted by lauralaylin
I think I missed what is wrong with asking why she changed her mind in only a month's time? I can't help but look at that suspiciously. She gave a good answer, but I think it was one that needed to be asked.

You may see it as fine that women "shop around" looking for a sorority that will initiate them, but I don't agree with this. I think a woman should want to join a specific sorority because it's a good fit, both what the group stands for and the people in it. And by contacting every group that does AI, this isn't happening. Therefore, I asked a question wondering if this was the case here. I'm entitled to my opinon, and if you think my opinion makes me "touchy," then so be it. I have made a very educated opinion based on the AIs that I have dealt with in my alum chapter, including when I was president. I have had both a good and bad experience with AI candidates, and yes, this may have made me question women's motives more. Obviously your experiences with AI have been totally different and positive, and I am happy for you in that regard. This doesn't mean that I dislike the practice, I love all of the Alpha Phi AIs on this board, and my AC is hoping to initiate a wonderful woman this fall.

If you want to continue this discussion AlphaPhiBubbles, please PM me.

betasigrose, I'm sorry I was rude. Getting to know the president of the AC is the best way to start with AI. If you ever have any questions, I'd be happy to answer them. I love that Alpha Phi is very open to the process, and I hope it is a positive experience for you. Good luck with your journey!

You weren't rude. I understand that you are very protective of Alpha Phi and I for one am grateful for it. I don't see anything wrong with a little bit of questioning. I would prefer that to blind fawning anyday.