Quote:
Originally posted by maggieaxid
I understand your dilemma and I agree with every one!!!
The person I wanted as my big was on probation bc of her grades, so I ended up with one of her roomates who I knew just a little bit. At first she was a great big, but then I started hanging out with other sisters who she wasn't crazy about (I found out later she wasn't real liked amongst most of the sisters) and she used to be really obnoxious about it. So after awhile she and I just stopped talking, besides just being cordial with one another. During all this time I had another member of my sorority kind of take me on as her little bc her little had dropped out of school and her grand-lil' was trying to get with her boyfriend...no, i am not kidding! So we became serrogates to each other.
After that, I got my own lil' who is lots of fun and a huge partier and my grand-lil who I love to death and would do anything for.
So, basically after all my rambling, I am just trying to point out, even though you may not know your big, everyone in your sorority has a place in your life if you choose them to be. So go call your big and ask her to go out to dinner or something. She might be shy and not know what to do!!!
|
I too had an adopted big. When I picked mine, I couldn't choose between two of the sisters so I picked someone else entirely. My big and I were close for a while and then she ended up turning psycho for some reason.
I was still close to the two I couldn't decide between in the first place, and one of them basically ended up adopting me since she never had a little and my big and I stopped talking. While I probably should've picked my wonderful adopted big in the first place, I don't think I would've appreciated how much she was there for me and how awesome she is if I would've had her from the beginning. So after all MY rambling, I think my point is that everything will work out in the end, it just sometimes takes longer to figure out where you're supposed to be, whether it's with someone totally different, or with the person who's been there from the beginning. Good luck.
Liz