[honeychile]

I would really advise you against giving two months' notice! One month is plenty; two weeks is the accepted norm. And since your boss knows that your husband is looking out of the area, he has all the notice he really needs. The more time you give a boss, the more time he will have to work on a bad reference. You want to be able to sit down with him and write your reference with him.

Figure out how much time it would take to train someone to do your job, and round it up a day or two (to work on your reference), and in case this is one really slow learner!). Then tell him that you'll help him find his dream replacement & train her! It could be a great experience for both of you.

Secret: Most bosses/managers hate to take the time to write a reference, but they are annoyed as can be when presented with a pre-written one. Have 5-6 great lines at the ready, and feed them to him, let him write it out, then offer to type it yourself (for him to sign). He'll think he's a genius, and you'll save him a brain cell or two.

Your letter to him should be short and sweet:

As you have known for the past (month? year?), my husband has been on a career search. He has accepted a position as a (career name) , but unfortunately, it is in (city). He will be leaving to start this new adventure on (date), and I will be following him on (date).

Therefore, I must regretfully tender my resignation as of (date). In the interim, I will be most happy to help you interview and/or train someone to fill my position. I appreciate your understanding, and for the (months? years?) that I've been a part of (name of the company).

I hope that I can depend on a letter of reference from you, and if I can help you with that, I would be honored.

Again, my sincere thanks,
CougADPi