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Originally posted by JocelynC
*INFORM girls better about the process itself. Let them know about the rules prior to the start (not always done). Make sure they understand that their sorority affiliation is an important lifetime choice and that choosing to join means alot of responsibilites.
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Man.....I had to deal with this last night on instant messenger. I'm a member of AITP (Association of Information Technology Professionals) and our current Treasurer is an AWESOME girl. She's also on SGA and she and I have been friends for a while, but she really, never seemed interested. Last year I invited her to CORs and stuff and she just played it off...
Last night, we were talking on IM about SGA and she said she was going to be the new webmaster of the SGA website, but that she was having a hard time getting access to it, with the password for the account and everything. I told her "Oh thats easy, I just recently created our sorority's website...just contact this person to get it set up..."
AND THEN....she asked for our website URL...so I gave it to her, and she started asking A MILLION questions...like suddenly the lightbulb had come on, and how did it work, what was the process, what WAS formal recruitment, etc etc etc...and I explained everything that I could without overstepping any boundaries. We dont have an "official" panhellenic set up at my school, but we try to follow the basic rules as much as possible. I told her that formal recruitment was a chance for her to meet both sororities, and see which group she most identified with, etc etc. And she asked "well how do I know I'll be invited?" and I freaked out..."Oh god, how do I answer"...so i just told her it was a mutual selection process. That if she had a good vibe about ABC sorority, and ABC sorority had a good vibe about her, there isnt much to worry about. I know that's not necessarily true at ALOT of schools, but that's the way it is at mine.
The conversation kinda shocked me in a way, made me realize that i dont REALLY know how to answer those questions, I HATE that we're told to "change the subject - step around it, talk about something else..." if the girl's asking me a question, she wants an answer, and that's what i wanted when I went through recruitment. I felt so bad, cause she had the same "tough" questions i had when I joined "How do i know I'll be invited and am not wasting my time doing this whole recruitment thing?" <sigh>
But, hopefully the answers I gave her were calming enough for her to show up. She said she was thinking about it, so I'm hoping she'll be at formal recruitment. <crosses fingers>