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The important thing is that you make those connections in your chapter, not who they are with. If you are bonding with your pledge class, that's great....those are the girls you are going to go through the majority of your college experience with. It isn't unusual for there to be a little bit of separation between the older girls and the younger girls, particularly in a big chapter like yours. In Chi Omega, we had "owl pals" who were randomly assigned to us during our pledge period...we had a different one every week, mainly as a way for us to feel connected to the actives and get to know different people. After several weeks we got our big sisters....in most cases our bigs were the girls who we had gotten closest to during rush/owl pal period. My big was very attentive at first, but as I got to know more people in the chapter and she knew I was feeling comfortable, we started to drift apart. One major problem was that she was over 21 and I was only 18.....it wasn't like we could really go out together. I made my own friends in the chapter and actually she left school after my freshman year, so it didn't much matter. The point of all this is, don't worry too much about who your pledge mom turns out to be....just try to pick someone you like and think you'll get along with, and concentrate more on getting involved in your chapter and getting closer to the girls you are already bonding with. When the time comes, maybe you will be one of those pledge moms who is truly a big sis to her little and that will be your primary relationship in the chapter.
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