Everyone here has given great advice as usual, and you should never give up. Locals are special (I know they are in NY, since if your in the SUNY system thats all you really have). However, as a last resort you might want to see about going National and just look at what sororities come the closest to your sororities convictions. But that's only as a LAST deseparate resort, because I know you want to keep it a local as it is