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We had a situation recently where some of our founders/older alumnae of our chapter made the actives feel like complete crap. Basically, it involved some alums who still live in the area emailing everyone for donations to help the active girls out because their rent has gone through the roof (completely voluntarily of course). Now back in the late 80's when the chapter was going through the founding process, things ran differently at my school, and some of the founders and older alums felt that they still had the authority to in a sense "haze" the actives. Basically they (and they I should clarify were like one or two) were bent out of shape that new members are not sent out to visit them, call them regularly, etc. etc. etc. It got pretty heated. Bottom line, actives are sisters, and should be treated as such. I think alumnae need to butt out and remember that a lot has changed through the years in regards to what is acceptable and what is not acceptable anymore. Personally speaking, visiting my chapter during Alumnae Weekend is more than enough for me. I don't want to sound "old" but I really don't have much in common with 18-21 year-old woman anymore. I actually ran into a new member from my chapter in Old Navy over the weekend. It was cool to speak with her, but it really was kind of awkward after the initial small talk. If my chapter reached out for me for advice, I would do what I could, but beyond that, I am happy to be part of an alumnae association of sisters who are closer to my age here in NYC!
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