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Originally posted by sageofages
Think about it this way...moving in together is A COMMITTMENT. It isn't just "being roommates"...I know it sounds cliche but it is "trial marriage". This guy put it out there in the open and said "you are important enough to me to share the bathroom with, you can have part of my precious closet space, I will even let you use the same address". While not quite a "will you marry me?" it is pretty darned close...
How would he have reacted IF he had said "will you marry me?" and you said "not yet"...probably the same...hurt, bewildered, wondering if you feel toward him the way he feels toward you.
I think taking this out carefully is in order...
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You're right. I hadn't thought of it as a "trial marriage" & I think it would feel that way if I moved in with him. I stay at his house most nights just because we live kind of far apart & we carpool in the morning. Between work, school, pilates, & his traveling we only see each other if we sleep over at each person's house. And lately we've been doing that a lot more often ever since I gained another roommate & he felt less comfortable at my apartment without me around. I just figured that if I lived alone we could spend equal time at each other's apartments like we used to when I lived alone previously. I want it to be the same way as it was then, when we would spend a few nights at his house a week, a few nights at my house a week & some nights we would spend alone.