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Originally posted by KSig RC
I don't mean to be glib or condescending, but the kid took a chance and made a stab, and you dumped on his face. Not too difficult to diagnose here, it's pretty obvious why he's upset and uncomfortable.
To "bridge the gab" you'll have to start to address his discomfort, and redraw your boundaries, as apparently they're shorter for you than they are for him. Basically, he had set his hopes (and put himself on the line) for one particular outcome, and you 'laughed at it' then flat rejected it. Those feelings will have to be addressed. It seems like you two prob have some communication issues to start, which will make it hard, but hey anything's possible.
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Well, he is hardly a kid. In fact, he is 39, which is 16.5 years older than I am. I feel bad now for laughing at the situation but I honestly never thought he would entertain such an idea let alone actually ask. Had he asked me & not had a roommate himself so that I could have a place to put my things I may have consented to the agreement.
And we have definitely had some communication problems in the past but now that we don't work together we hardly fight anymore. We have been much closer in the last few months than we ever have in the past. I just don't feel right moving in with him yet.