[PhoenixAzul]

This is something that I think about a lot, based on a friend's experience in rush. She didn't get a bid, so now she's restarting a sorority at OC. So when it came to present to Panhel, they all asked her "Why didn't you join one of our groups?". Well, the short answer is "you didn't invite me." Recruitment places a TON of power in the hands of the chapters, and even though a girl might desperately want to be an ABC or a TBS, the chapter doesn't give her a bid just because of her wants. It's a two sided process. These girls might have been deciding between two chapters and got matched with the OTHER group and not YOUR group.

I don't think it should be looked at as "YOU didn't pick US first time around, so why should we give you a chance?" it should be "WE didn't pick EACHOTHER the first time around, let's give them a chance."