[christiangirl]

Well, here's the opinion of a non-sorority member. I can definitely feel you on the sloppy seconds thing, but when you think about it, they are starting over again. Now that they are disaffiliated, they'll be going through rush with a clean slate, just like any other PNM. So if they pick you, don't be upset about it, just be glad that the girls you get want you, now that they have the opportunity. They could just pout and say, "Our sorority was the best, to hell with all the others, we just won't go anywhere b/c none of you can measure up." I'd be very glad they didn't see my group that way.

As far as telling someone's sincerity in joining for more than "the letters"--Ask whoever you're talking to what she thinks of the sorority's goals, the girls she's met, etc. Ask her how she sees herself living those out. You might even ask if she can see herself meshing into a new group of sisters, but you might not feel comfortable going there with her. Look straight into her eyes as she answers--actions can betray you, but if you don't see sincerity in her eyes, you'll know what's up.