Hello members of Greek Chat, I've been reading messages here for a few months, but this is the first time for me to actually post. I am looking for some advice. I go to a large midwestern university with a fairly big greek system. In August, I went through formal recruitment and ended up in a chapter I love. Here's the deal, there are sort of a lot of girls (about 40 in my pledge class, 115 overall) and, as of yet, I haven't "clicked" yet with anyone outside my pledge class. For example, my big sis has virtually ignored me (I don't know why, I was nice to her on bid day, but we've barely spoken since), and she's not very active anyway. When I see other girls running up to hug their big sis's, I feel like I'm missing out on something. In two weeks, each new member will write down 5 sophomore's names to be their pledge mom (which is more important than a big sis), and the new member coordinators match us up. Some girls have already unofficially "chosen" or "been chosen" by their family. There are 4 girls I have in mind, ones who I say hello to when passing between classes, but we haven't talked much otherwise. One of those girls rushed me, and seemed really cool, but I haven't had the chance to have a real conversation with her yet. I understand that, by not living in the house, freshman year will be a little strange, but I still want to get to know my sisters. I am very psyched to be in my house and want to be involved. Should I just work on developing friendships within my pledge class? Or are there any suggestions on opening up to them without seeming overly pretentious? Will things get better in time?
