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Originally posted by Zillini
It's none of my business, but what exactly have you done to help her?
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The basic approach we've tried is to have people in the chapter who are close to her voice their concerns. However, she's not willing to admit that there's a problem...most of the weight loss she'll attribute to training for a fitness event (marathon, triathalon, etc.). So we're not just sitting around and waiting for the issue to resolve itself, but until she's willing to ask for help, we're pretty limited in our options.
As far as having a speaker come and talk to us, as she's not able to acknowledge that she has a problem, I sincerely doubt that listening to one is going to bring about that ephiphany moment where she realizes that she needs to get help. We've had similar programs in the past, and there have been several campus programs recently that have addressed eating disorders, so I doubt that one more is going to make much of a difference.
Not allowing her to move into the house would be, in my opinion, extremely counterproductive. All legal issues aside, by yanking away her place to live, we'd be adding a nice topping of stress to her life in addition to everything that she must already be going through. In past cases of this issue (though nowhere near as extreme) in the chapter, living in has been really helpful. For example, our house mom has talked to parents of girls we/ she has been worried about.
And as far as the rushing deal goes...I think we're putting her in as a bump (floater) in one of the first two stages. After that, we do a lot of specialty rushing, so she'll be talking to girls she's made a connection with already...no worries about those who are on the superficial side (and who might tell tales to their friends) being paired with her.
Sorry this is so long...I have a verbosity problem.