When I'm not talking to a member of my sorority, I refer to myself as a woman of Alpha Kappa Alpha, and that's how I would like for them to refer to me. When I'm talking to a soror, only then do I say AKA. I prefer that if someone is not a soror, that that person does not refer to me in such a familiar term as an AKA. I was also taught not to refer to me as AKA when I was an interested woman but I think that interested women these days don't know this.
On a sidenote, I hate when posters misuse the possessive and type "AKA's" when there is no possessive being shown. This applies for all the names of the different BGLOs actually.
For example, altogether now...
AKA's = the possessive (example: I had that AKA's shirt) - showing possession of the shirt
AKAs = the plural (example: I saw a ton of AKAs at the stepshow) - using the term AKAs to mean more than one AKA.
Ok, I'm off my soapbox now.
SC