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Originally posted by Munchkin03
The thing that bothers me the most about a lot of female attitudes on GC about marriage/relationships is that so many young women define themselves by who they're dating, whether or not they're pinned/lavaliered/engaged/shacking or whatever. These things don't last forever, and when you're 19, you have to prepare yourself for the possibility that they won't happen at all.
I'm hardly anti-marriage or family--in fact, I intend to stay at home for at least a few years after mini-Munches. I just understand that things don't always go as we hope--and I have to prepare myself for that.
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100% true. As women, society has made many women believe that they are defined by their marital status & the # of children they have. This is patently ridiculous but still, women out there continue to believe it. Why else did I get the pitying questions from friends & relatives everytime they asked me When was Mike
FINALLLY going to marry me? It's as if my identity was only half there until I marry him. I guess dating someone for 7 years is too extreme for some people. No one believes that I preferred to receive a college degree first & start a career before I would consider getting married.
Just be prepared Munchkin for the looks you might get from someone (mainly women) if you tell them (after you've had kids & are staying at home) that you are a stay at home mom. Women are criticized one way or the other. We're mocked if we choose to work over having kids & we're mocked if we choose to stay at home with them.
People are just ignorant.