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Justamom, I always love what you have to say!
I also agree that ilovemyglo needs to get a backbone and stand up to her parents, at least to some extent. How can her parents actually expect her not to date anyone until she's what, 26 or 27 or however old she'll be once she finishes medical school? Does James really want to be involved with someone with such issues? They probably won't magically go away once ilovemyglo finishes medical school; if her family is that much in control of her, I'm sure they will find other ways to control her later.
If ilovemyglo REALLY liked James, she wouldn't give a flying hoot what her parents and family thought, or she would be willing to lie to them. Love makes us do crazy things. There are people in the world who have dated people and kept it hidden from their families. There are people who have LIVED WITH their significant others for YEARS without their families EVER knowing about it. Trust me, there are ways to get around the family issues if someone really wants to get around them.
Also, she may just be out for the sex with no emotional investment, and James may end up hurt and it's really not worth it if he wants more than that.
I still think the hiding it from the friends part is just weird. If you are into someone, you're not hiding it from your friends. I would tell ilovemyglo who's who and what's what -- like, you know, I really like you but I can't deal with this pretending to be friends stuff -- and if she's not willing to change that, run. There are other people out there that James will like even more (he may not think that's true right now but it is)!
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