I am sorry if this sounds like I am on a soapbox--but I just want to offer some thoughts on "non-sorority" things vs. "sorority things." Once initiated you are always a DPhiE. Its not something you can take off or put on like a pair of shoes--I believe that each of us has the privilege of being a representative of the organization at all times and in all places, and the responsibility to represent all of our sisters well. This is especially true if you advertise that you are a member.
I cannot say it any better than our past president Dawn McNulty (previously shared in this forum by another sister): "D Phi E challenges me on a daily basis to live up the oath I took as a sister, to be comitted to Justice, Sisterhood, and Love, to live by our motto- "Esse Quam Videri" -To Be Rather Than Seem To Be. The people I encounter throughout my daily life may not know of Delta Phi Epsilon or that I am a member, but they should know by my actions that I am a caring person committed to the principles above, and the world should be a better place for my contribution."
I think our sorority should help our members develop socially and we should have fun together. But we need to remember that the actions of one, can, and often do, affect the reputation of many. As an alumna, I want to honor my sisters and our founders--I want my letters to always symbolize justice, sisterhood and love. If that is something you care about, then each individual has a responsibility to maintain that themselves. I am not sure much would be accomplished by going after people individually--because I question whether or not they "get it" anyway.
On the topic of whether it has been addressed, the International Headquarters did send something out to ever chapter this past semester addressing this issue specifically, and has done so several times over the last few years.
I'll get off the soapbox now.
