[IowaHawkeye]

whoa Lifesaver, James is mine - ilovemyglo best not be giving him emotional scars. ok, totally kidding.

anyway...
In my personal opinion, I am with your brother in saying that you need to re-examine this situation. Don't you owe it to yourself to go after what you want? I'm not just talking in terms of bfs/gfs here - i mean that in every aspect of life. If this girl will make you happy then you owe it to yourself to see if something is there. Maybe ilovemyglo has issues because no one has ever fought for her - so instead of possibly being rejected or becoming emotionally attached and hurt - she says that her family doesn't want her to date until after college and their religious ect. I know so many girls who shelter themselves from ever really experiencing a great relationship just b/c they're unsure of what will become of it.

Do you like this girl? I know you do. From what you just typed, it seems like she likes you too - she doesn't want you to leave, she invites you to parties where her friends will be, you have mad crazy shakey love - it does take two to do that you know. Get this girl to open up to you and tell you whats really behind her excuses - to do that you might have to open up to her and tell her why you want to try and see if something will happen to you.

Point of my rambling : if you want something, go after it, b/c in my opinion, love really is worth it.