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Originally posted by btb87
Soror, this is so true. Unfortunately, I'm not at that "happy place" right now (separated), and it is indeed an adjustment, but when it was good, it was really good.
I love the "someone to kill spiders" part. I have awakened my husband out of a sound sleep to kill a spider, or catch an errant frog that unfortunately found its way in the house (and toilet). Also, when we were first married, he was TDY (former military) and one of those gigantimus palmetto roaches was in the house. I didn't want to step on him or kill him with a shoe, so I squirted liquid dishwashing detergent on him. The bug died, I left it in the floor for another few days until my husband got home, and he cleaned it up. Yes, there are perks to being married!
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I'm not at that happy place myself. Hubby and I are separated as well. I have to say that it was good while it lasted and we are separating as friends. I used to think just like dsteazy that I had to be married and finished having my kids by the time I was 30. I'll be 30 next month and I'll be heading to divorce court for the second time before 2005 is out so matrimony is not all it's cracked up to be because things happen. I am realizing that maybe things happen for a reason. I have invested so much of myself in being a good wife and mother that I lost myself in the process. I am now going to concentrate on getting to know 9dstpm again. This summer while the childperson is in Mississippi with the grandparents, I will take a Spanish class so that I can be a more marketable social worker, I will learn to swim at the Y, I will travel and see some of my sands and some of my friends that I haven't seen since my last visit home, and I will explore possibly moving to Phoenix, AZ in the next year or so because I am tired of Michigan and the snow and cold. I will most likely not marry again unless Dennis comes along
. And as for the more kids thing, I'm still working my way through the infertility and all. The childperson is 10 and I'm thankful that I have him and while I would LOVE to have a little girl, I'll just wait patiently and see what HE has in store for me.
