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Originally posted by winneythepooh7
I personally didn't find anyone's posts to be attacking or offensive, in fact, I think everyone is being as honest as possible. In fact, if I remember some of the catty girls that were in my chapter, a 27-year-old may have gotten laughed at for considering joining. I don't think it will do anyone any good to sugarcoat the issues because these are realities she will be faced with, which will have to influence her decision on joining  . It has nothing to do with being "stereotypical" IMHO.
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No, the reality is that you aren't seeing that there are other chapters that are different from yours. I didnt choose my school based on greek life. I chose my school based on what my education was going to be like. When the opportunity to join Alpha Xi Delta presented itself, I took the challenge.
That being said, had I gone to a larger school, with chapters of 50 girls or more, I probably wouldn't have done it. Why? To avoid rude catty girls such as the ones you describe.
There is an opportunity for everyone out there. It embarrasses me to know that there are girls that i'm supposed to call "my sisters" on a national level, who are SO shallow that they would make fun of an older girl for joining....and before anybody says "you don't know what you're talking about" BELIEVE ME, I do. We had a 35 year old single mom who pledged with us when we were a colony. She didn't initiate. Why? Because she felt out of place; not because we were rude or mean to her, but because she had a different outlook on life....those of us who were considerably younger wanted to act our age - we didnt want somebody who was going to treat us like our mother and say "no, you shouldnt do this and this is the reason why." She also realized that she had a daughter to take care of, and a sorority was too time consuming for her family life. She left on good terms, and it was her own decision, but i admire her because she had the guts to try it out.
What I am saying by encourageing TheBest to check it out, is NOT sugarcoating the truth. It's called encouragement. And if she doesnt fit in, or doesnt feel comfortable, thats what the new member period is for - it's a trial time to see if it's really meant for you, and vice versa. At least, that's the way it was taught at my chapter. We weren't taught to be stuck up snotty and discriminatory towards girls who were different, based on age or looks, or whatever else. It hurts me to know there are people out there who actually think that way. What a pity.
*Edit* i just realized thatmost of the girls participating on this thread are NOT AZDs, so I apologize to MY SISTERS for the comment:
It embarrasses me to know that there are girls that i'm supposed to call "my sisters" on a national level, who are SO shallow that they would make fun of an older girl for joining