First - go carnation with 9 daughters! Alas, I'm stuck with only a couple boys, but have hope in a niece.
I think if I had a daughter that it would be impossible for me not to put pressure on her as I work so much with my organization and she would see how much it means to me. I think it would be more disappointing to me to have her go to a university without and Alpha Xi Delta chapter and pledge somewhere else because then she never had the chance to see if it was for her. I honestly don't know if I could resist putting pressure on her to join Alpha Xi Delta or putting pressure on the chapter to pledge her. One of the most special memories I have with my mother was when she was initiated into my chapter as an alumnae initiate. Because Alpha Xi Delta means so much to me it is another bond we share as mother and daughter.
Of course as I don't think I'm going to have anymore children (although accidents have been known to happen
) I realize that I have hundreds of daughters in the collegiate women that I work with - they are the daughters of my heart - and how wonderful - they're all already Alpha Xi's!!!
My two cousins are in different sororities - Kappa and Alpha Phi. The older hated it and suspended her membership after a year the younger loved it and was a very active member of her chapter.
On the frat front, my cousin was a Sig Ep that was closed for hazing after he graduated. I hope by the time my boys are ready for recruitment, fraternities (and sororities for that matter) have realized that hazing doesn't get you anything but gone.
As for my niece, I've got 13 years to work on my her. I think it's time for her to start learning door songs!
