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Originally posted by James
Right Shadokat, I am in accord with you.
I think SigmaChiCard may have touched on this by looking at some of the psychology/technology of hazing.
So the trick would be, since we all know from trying to quit benign addictions that its easier to replace a negative with something positive, to find positive activities that have the same intensity level as hazing, to emphasize primary group loyalty.
Any ideas folks?
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My sorority requires a candidate (new members) class project that "betters" the sisterhood. The sisters challenge themselves to define a project, plan and execute it. With some guidance, they are in complete control over the project. The project inspires loyalty because the candidates can take ownership of it, they can take pride in it, and they are given an opperunity to be part of a chapters history or in some cases national history.
But I think the biggest way to create loyalty comes from the simple fact of respect and example. If sisters and brothers feel that a cause is worth, and lead by example, then those that are willing will follow. But the examples have to be positive ones. You treat members with respect, and you will gain their favor and their trust.
To quote one of my much loved broadway musicals:
"Careful the things you say,
Children will listen.
Careful the things you do,
Children will see.
And learn.
Children may not obey,
But children will listen.
Children will look to you
For which way to turn,
To learn what to be.
Careful before you say,
"Listen to me"
Children will listen."
~ The Witch
~ Finale: Children will listen
~ Into the Woods
~ Stephen Sondheim
While our new members are far from children, the words still apply.