[Ideal08]

Originally posted by Conskeeted19
thanks ideal for being concerned.

That's what Sorors are for!

what do you do when you desperately want to be special friends with someone, but he/she is reluctant because he/she is afraid that he/she may get too close? how do you handel the rejection? when i say special friends, i am not referring to being sexual.

Well, that's a hard one. I mean, if you feel like putting work into trying to make the friendship work is worth it, I say keep at it. People have fears of intimacy (not sexual, but in general) for different reasons. Friendships, like any relationship, require work, and are not always easy to upkeep. A TRUE friend will attempt to put her insecurities and fears behind her to try and make the friendship work.

As far as how do you handle the rejection, I agree with 2D, just like you handle any rejection. It's hard, but everything takes time. Just remember, some people come into our lives for only a reason or a season, not everyone is meant to be in your life for a lifetime. That is a hard reality to face sometimes, I know. But just look at it like this, everything is an experience. What can you take from the friendship, and what can you leave behind? Did you learn anything from the relationship? Did it help you grow in any way? Write about it in your journal, mourn the ending of the friendship, and pick yourself back up and move on.