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Originally posted by blueangel
The purpose of dating is to find a mate to marry. The poster seems distressed because her boyfriend does not seem to be coming forth in that sense.
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holy fucking crap
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Originally posted by blueangel
If your purpose in dating is only to have a sex buddy, then that is your decision. However, I think the poster has more in mind for herself than that. If her boyfriend hasn't made up his mind in three years, that is a major red flag.
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holy fucking crap
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Originally posted by blueangel
Three years is a big chunk out of your life. It is time to move on. It's like trying on shoes-- some shoes may look good, but they hurt. You need to try on a lot of shoes to find the perfect pair that fit, won't give you bunions and that look great! But how can you find that perfect pair of shoes, when you insist on sticking with the same pair of shoes that are ruining your feet? Time to go back to the store and go shopping!
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nice analogy - shoe shopping and matters of the heart go hand in hand, like lamb and tuna fish
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Originally posted by blueangel
A man who is truly in love with a woman would do anything to keep her. That includes asking her to marry him. A good book to read is "He's Just Not that in to You."
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What REALLY worries me is that people need to read this book to understand the lessons. Shit guys, take a body language course, or live life and garner some experience with humans.
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Originally posted by blueangel
As for the co-habitation before marriage-- I am just repeating the statistics which were done in a survey. Don't kill the messenger.
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The 'statistics' are really poor science, and to make conclusions based upon them is really pretty poor as well.
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Originally posted by blueangel
Although, I personally DO agree with it. You know the old saying, why marry the cow if you get the milk for free? But if anyone reading this feels that living with someone outside of marriage is OK for you, who am I to judge? Just be aware of the statistics. You may beat them.. but then again.... you may not. Just be sure to go in with your eyes wide open.
(edited for typo)
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Hey, a stitch in time saves nine, so even if you really enjoy stitching you'd better take the short way. Oh, and one in the hand is worth two in the bush, so who the hell even knows what that means. The cliche is tired and not even necessarily pertinent to the point you're making.
How's this for weak evidentiary support? I know many, many nice, attractive, well-off, intelligent men who would never dream of marrying anyone until they've lived together. Why get the milk when the cow is a huge bitch over bills, or is irresponsible in a living situation, or smells like ass?