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Its up to you to define the relationship you have with your friends.
By not commenting on the way Steve flirts, you give him tacit approval to continue. After all you do respond to him . . . so why should he think there is anything wrong?
Plus you said that he was more your friend than your BF's. If he was primarily your BF's friend I would find it odd he emails you at all. I certainly don't email any of my friends GFs.
Showing the email comments to your BF is just . . . well . . . odd.
Steve is your friend. Steve has chosen to communicate with you in a flirty way. Men and women do that.
You didn't tell Steven that you weren't comfy with that prior to showing your BF the comments. And you kept showing the comments to your BF until your BF finally agreed with your initial opinion that Steve's comments were indicative of some romantic interest.
Basically, you kept showing your BF the comments until he got pissed off.
Here is my read on it:
Men like to flirt with women. Even women that are friends. Men like to flirt with woman that are taken. Its safer.
And a lot of times women that are taken are actually more confident, flirty and fun because they are taken. It gives them a sense of space and unselfconsciousness based on a lack of expectation. Women with BFs are lots of fun in a bar setting.
Steve is just flirting. I thinka lot of women may need a small refresher course on the difference between hitting-on someone and flirting. ITs flirting up to the point where they ask you on a date, then its more likely to be a hitting-on situation.
Plus this guy is umpteen thousands of miles away. And as far as his visit to the states, why worry, unless you think he would assault you? And you can always be busy. Or include a chaperone with your plans.
If I didn't know you to be a such a strong woman Navane, I would think that the thousands of miles and time of seperation between you and your BF is stressing you out and making you a little skitzy. Skitzy enough that you are over sensitive to what is in effect, not a problem.
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