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What I don't understand is why you continue to show these comments to Neil. Yes, I get that on some level you want to be up-front because you don't want him to think you're hiding anything from him when you're not, and maybe I've reading too much into your post, but it sounds like you've shown him these emails almost every time you get one . . . which makes it seem like you're TRYING to upset him with them, or using them to make him insecure in your relationship
Anyway, I don't think this is particularly abnormal. Some guys love the challenge of a girl who's already taken. Some don't understand that this is going to make you uncomfortable. Some just like stirring isht up. If it really upsets you, you have two options -- you can tell him straight-up that those statements bother you and your boyfriend and you want him to stop, or you can stop talking to him. Depending on his motives, the first choice may work or it may not. Personally, I feel like just not responding to his emails is pretty passive-aggressive and not nearly as effective as just SAYING something to him, but if you ask him to stop and he doesn't realize there's anything wrong with his behavior then that may be the best course of action.
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