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Val-
Haha. No, don't want to pick a fight so I will rephrase, but I am serious.
Say it was me. Ultimately, the birth control pill is for ME. If I got pregnant (by a boyfriend of like 7+ yrs or not, either way), ultimately it would be MY problem. Sure, I would REALLY hope it would be his problem too, but honestly, the pregnancy is mine to deal with.
As jaded as this may sound, there is always a possibility that he will bail- particularly when there is no marriage certificate. Sure there is legal recourse, and although long-term money is important, I am thinking more about the immediate 9 months (the weight gain, doctor visits, insurance coverage, work comp. time). If that is not what I want right now, then you better be darn sure that taking (and paying) for that magic little pill is a top concern for ME.
I have read about guys being put in jail for not paying child support, but realistically, not until they owed tens of thousands of dollars do the courts care around where I live care to throw them in jail. So, great, that is like years of deliquent payments.
Finally, I would hope that a woman would not be so messed up that she would stop taking the pill and trick a guy into getting her pregnant, but I have seen it happen. And, no that is not fair. But, in reality, I think you should think hard and fast about who you are sleeping with. Rarely does psychotic behavior like that come out of nowhere.
What it comes down to is that you need to know and trust who you are sleeping with- HOWEVER, you need to be accountable for the choices you make. So that is why I would say that birth control would be for ME. Who knows if the guy will bail on you- I just wouldn't want to make that gamble.
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