Thanks all for your responses. I woke up this morning and read through half of the posts and just finished reading the rest now.

I suppose I've calmed down a bit since writing that post, but I am still undecided as to whether or not I'm going. It's a good thing that I have up until the 18th to decide whether to go to the wedding or go on a weekend vacation!

It's funny because I was at work today, and one of my co-workers is also a HS classmate. I asked her if she knew about the situation (as she's also invited to the wedding) and Judy told me she assumed that I was a part of the wedding party. She compared me and Aleathia to rubber and glue as she recalled how close Aleathia and I were back then.

And you guys are right -- I could give two shits about being a part of the wedding party. I'm just infuriated that she didn't bother to clue me in. In Aleathia's defense she's never been the confrontational type. This doesn't appease the situation at all, but it does explain at least one thing.

Maybe I just need to find a really really really hot guy to take to the wedding to make them all jealous of me.

And no, I'm not secretly in love with her as madmax said. She carries too much emotional baggage and is too needy and she's really not my type.