Oh girl, you are sooo not over reacting!! I would not have even been able to type up all the information as nicely as you did,I would still be seething!! It sucks when a friend that you think that is close to you does something as ishitty as that!! I do have to agree with one of the past posters, it does sound like y'alls friendship has been wanning for sometime, and this was the straw to break the camels back.
I am so sorry that this has happened to you. I have a friend that was my best friend in H.S., college and after. Now however we have been drifting apart for sometime. We are just at different points in our lifes right now and sadly even when she lived 10 mins. from me we still did not do all that much together.
I would not go to the wedding..sorry but it sounds like this girl just used you, got what she wanted and moved on without having the decency to tell you about who was in the wedding party and why she left you out. To me it sounds like you had a major hand in helping get the couple together and remain together!! And her actions clearly scream that she does not appreciate all that you have given her in the past or now.
So why should you have to go to a wedding that you don't really want to be at and try to pretend to be happy at? Sounds like a huge waste of time to me. Plus everytime you saw one of the other bridesmaids you would have to feign happiness so they would not have anything to talk about for years to come.
I think you should go to Cali and have a great time and be with people that you want to be around. Afterall, the bride decided who she wanted to be around on her day.
So sorry for the long post
