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I've been thinking about your post for a little while now. I read it yesterday but wanted to really give it some thought before replying.
Your boyfriend sounds super sensitive in regards to this situation & the past divorce may have a lot to do with it. Instead of saying that your lies were for no reason you need to dig deep within yourself & find out what the real reason was. Subconsciously there has to be some reason why you lied to him in the first place. It doesn't even have to be a big reason or even a valid one. It could be as simple as you were afraid that he may think you've had contact with your ex-boyfriend when you really hadn't. Whatever the reason, you need to identify it & then share it with him. Just telling him that you lied & not why you lied is going to leave him more confused & hurt. He needs to understand how to communicate with you in an open & honest manner as well as you do with him. Think about it, if you aren't comfortable telling him something so insignificant now how could you possibly envision your future together?
Sometimes little white lies are needed, such as when they ask about their new haircut or shoes that we hate. But you've got to weigh your choices before you say the lie. Was it worth it if he ever finds out the truth?
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