AXiD670 had a great approach. Wish I'd thought of that.
Honestly, it just sounds like you guys are growing apart and you're *not* going to miss seeing this/these couple(s) in the future. If that's not 100% the case, though,
go.
I don't at all agree with this:
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Originally posted by starryeyed
I have a solution:
1. Act like nothing is wrong between you two so you won't seem like you are throwing a hissy fit.
2. Feign sick at the last minute
3. Go to California
4. Have that margarita
5. Send a cheap present & a note saying you are sorry that you were "ill"
6. Have no regrets!
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I like the idea of an "alternate" solution, but I don't think this one is it -- like you said, you've been running around doing half her planning, etc., so it's obvious to everyone you've known the date for awhile now. Calling "sorority obligation!" last minute just seems bitchy and immature (vs. just saying, "Sorry I can't make it," and the reason will be obvious after you talk to the bride.)
Obviously you need to do everything "right" here since there's a lot of room for people to do a smear campaign on you & make you look like the jilted wanna-be-bridesmaid.
sidenote: What's WITH all these girls getting upset over bridesmaids choices? (Sandy, excluding you -- you're clearly upset over the way the bride handled telling you, vs. her decision.) IT'S THE BRIDE AND GROOM'S WEDDING. Don't you think THEY would know better than anyone else who they're close to? And who knows what else is going into these decisions -- maybe the bride felt obligated b/c she'd been a bridesmaid to someone else. Maybe the bride felt like asking a specific bridesmaid would bring them closer. Maybe the bride couldn't choose between two women and knew one of them wouldn't make the issue into a federal case. WHO KNOWS? IT'S NOT YOUR WEDDING!