[ISUKappa]

I would definitely be pissed and hurt and upset. You need to find the time to talk to Aleathia, just the two of you, and tell her directly that you were hurt to find out the other two girls are her bridesmaids; not the fact that they are, but the avenue in which it was told you -- that you had to hear it on the interweb from one of those bridesmaids, not the bride herself. To me, that's the truly ishtty part. And there is no excuse for it. She could have told you before she asked the other girls; she could have told you after she asked the other girls; she could have told you at any time, but she didn't. I've planned a wedding. I know how stressful things can be and how you can forget things because you're thinking about a million details at once, but that is something she would not forget. And it sounds as if she's talked to the other girls about it, too. (which again, is really ishtty on her part, talking to them instead of talking to you about it.) Now, honestly, I have no room to talk because I would probably have done something similar, or emailed the person about the bridal party, but that's just because I hate confrontation. But, Aleathia knows you, knows how you operate and knows that you would much prefer to hear it straight up, from her, instead of this pansy behind-the-back crap.

As far as boycotting the wedding, can you look back in 10 years and say, honestly, that you have no regrets missing your best friend's wedding, even if you're not really close friends anymore? If, in a month, you can honestly say you'll have no regrets and you haven't worked things out between Aleathia and yourself, and you still don't want to go, don't go. It's not worth forcing yourself. But if you do think you can go and genuinely be happy for the bride and groom (which you are) and not let the whole bridesmaid issue affect your attitude, then go. I don't think it necessarily has anything to do with being the better person, it's what ever is going to make you happier/feel better in the end.