[starryeyed]

I'd be livid especially since they discussed it. However, I would not tell anyone else. I wouldn't give them the pleasure of thriving on the drama. It seems to me they wanted you to be "surprised" or they would have told you in a more tactful manner. I would go and just act like the bigger person. I wouldn't help with any more of the planning, but why not go and eat their free food? Just think of it this way, when you are in the bridal party there is so much bs that you have to do -with the dress, fittings, hair, taking pictures, throwing showers, and you got lucky!