[utkzta]

Don't quit yet! You have to remember also that you may not always live in that city or state, and you might move some where with awesome new ZTA sisters. Do you like the alums in your area?

I think we all forget how childish and immature we all were in our late teens and early twenties. Girls get caught up in their own lives and feel it is someone else's responsibility to reach out to them (meaning the chapter thinks you should contact them). One of my best friends went through that at another school. She found out she had a life changing medical condition and stopped going to things. No one called her, no one checked on her - the only phone calls she got from the chapter were 1) what are we going to do with your little sister and 2) are you financial clear. Later we got to be friends, found out we were both ZTA's and are involved in the alum group together. Good can happen.

I also think sometimes advisors that are VERY close to their college chapters stay in that (childish?) mind set. They have a set of rules that must be followed, and lose sight of the big picture. 99% of the time there are exceptions to every rule.

Honestly, I am surprised they pledged you at 28 into a college chapter - mainly because I wouldn't think you would have a lot in common with the girls. A college boyfriend's fraternity pledged two guys over 23, and they just didn't want to put up with the BS from guess 5/6 years their junior. The mindset is just so different as you get a little older. (I am sort of proud of them for that - I doubt it would have happened at my chapter). It doesn't excuse the behavior, but especially if remaining a Zeta doesn't cost you money I wouldn't go to the trouble to quit. Your future daughter will be a legacy, and you may find the perfect alum group and alum friends later in life.