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Sisters, don't be discouraged. I say get active, don't get sad. There are many good men out there. I think that some of us say that obtaining marriage/children is our #1 priority but we just don't act like it. For instance, to those of us for whom obtaining marriage/children is our #1 priority, we must plan to meet men. I think that's it's basically a numbers game. If we made eye contact, smiled and said hello to every black man (or every man if you are into non-black men as well) that we met, we would have several dates a month. If we don't, that means that we are not getting out enough. We may be spending too much time working long hours or too much time trying to be Ms. Sorority, I'm on every committee in the whole world, for example. People often think that I'm crazy when I plan my social life like all of my other goals. For instance, if I know that I want to be able to find a man and do for him in the evenings, I can't take a high falutin job requiring me to work all night long.
Ok, I'm rambling now but don't be discouraged. There are many good men out there. Many of them are shy and will not approach a woman (at least not w/out a little encouragement like some eye contact and a smile) so walk up, smile and ask for the time. Then when they give it to you, make eye contact and compliment him on his watch or his shirt - men eat that stuff up. LOL
It works.
A friend told me a long time ago to please, please, please not get jaded like he told me he has seen so many other women get when they get to their late 20's, and 30's and 40's so don't get jaded.
It's all a numbers game.
Also, regarding spirituality. I believe that my mate will come from G-D but even the women who are "coming up" in church often took a step to meet that man and didn't just wait for him to fall in their laps so step to that man that you see in church. Now personally, my worst boyfriend ever, I met him sitting next to me in church so I'm not so hot on that but hey, whatever floats your boat.
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