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Taking a break can mean different things to the person asking for the break. I'll speak only for guys.
Val is right when she says that usually its a wussy way to back into a break up.
Also, it can mean that the guy feels out of control of himself in the relationship. Maybe he finds himself spending more time with you than he believes he should, doing things that you want to do. Sacrificing things he thinks he should be doing. I see this at times with couples that spend a lot of their free time together. Sometimes girls can be really time intensive.
In that case taking some time would be his way of reasserting himself into his own life and the relationship.
However, thats a bad strategy to use because any type of break up weakens the relationship. Anytime you go into the break up, get back together mode you lose some of the magic. Some people do that on purpose. They break up and get back together because they can't stand the intensity of the infatuation and keep doing it until the relationship is "comfortable". But thats a digression.
Now that I have confused you some more I'll give you a different way of looking at this situation.
Your boyfriend just broke up with you. Thats what a break is. Thats why its called a break, as in break up. All he has said is that he might want to start going back out with you soon.
So what you have to do is act AS IF the relationship is over and behave accordingly. Go out, see other people, break off contact with him etc. Because as far as you know, he has broken up with you.
Oh and next time, tell him there are other strategies to use if you need a "break". You can plan little trips that don't include the person, you can invent a solitary project. All kinds of mature ways to do it that don't screw things up even if things work out. Because even if things do work out with him . . . he has already betrayed you.
Little shit.
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