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Originally posted by TSteven
Thanks. I think I now kind of understand. And if I may, an additional follow up question.
Does the "limited contact" apply for only a certain time (situation) during/before formal recruitment? Say once a PNM registers until after she is offered a bid or drops?
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If I remember Green Book rules correctly, if you're an active/alumna, you should try to limit contact with a PNM you know or know of the semester before formal recruitment, except for family/close friends. So if I knew a girl I went to HS with was going to rush, I couldn't call her up and talk about rush that summer, but I could talk to her if we ran into each other at a ballgame or something, so long as I didn't try to persuade her to go AZD and just kinda told her to be excited about it. If my younger sister were rushing, my mom and I could talk to her no problem because we live together, but we'd still be encouraged not to persuade her to "go KD/AZD or nothing at all." If my very best friend were going to rush, I could still hang out with her, so long as I didn't try to encourage her to join my particular sorority. That's rushing a girl and supposed to be reserved for formal recruitment, so that would be dirty rushing if I encouraged her to join my group or nothing else outside of recruitment. So basically, you're right in that it's from once a girl registers for rush until she drops out/signs her preference card.
During formal recruitment, we're not supposed to talk to PNMs very much. If I'm filling up my car and a PNM is at the pump next to me, we could say "Hey," and maybe a couple comments about how hectic rush is or how hot it gets in Alabama during August, but again I should try not to talk to her too much because that's a potential influence outside of rush and that's bad.
Strict silence is enforced from the end of the last preference party until PNMs have signed their bid cards. Pref Day, naturally, is quite emotional, and girls may be torn between two or more chapters, so they are not allowed to speak to anyone (nor is a member/alumna/rush counselor allowed to talk to them) until they have signed their card ranking the houses in order of where they feel the most comfortable. That way, a girl's final decision is her own. Rush counselors are basically only allowed to tell her to rank houses in order of what she wants. After she signs her card and her decision is made, she can tell the world if she wants the order in which she ranked the sororities she preffed.