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Originally posted by bekibug
That's true, but there's a difference in getting to know ONE sorority girl in your class and going out to dinner with 6-7 of them regularly when you don't know any of them and have had no other contact with them prior to that summer. The PNM in question knew one of the sisters of that particular sorority from high school, but no others, and they were casual friends, but not BFF.
As far as friends not hanging out during formal recruitment when one is a PNM, that's a situational question, sort of. If a girl decides to rush because she met sorority girls in her dorm freshman year and became friends with them, then it's ok for them to talk to her because they're friends already and she's probably got at least a good idea of where she'd like to go BASED ON HER OWN OBSERVATIONS . If you meet a freshman PNM in summer classes, your contact with her could unduly influence her because chances are she hasn't had the chance to make those same observations as a girl that lived in a dorm freshman year.
In practice, though, we're encouraged to try to limit our contact with friends that are rushing or at least not talk about rush. That doesn't always happen, but we are encouraged to try not to influence them.
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Thanks. I think I now kind of understand. And if I may, an additional follow up question.
Does the "limited contact" apply for only a certain time (situation) during/before formal recruitment? Say once a PNM registers until after she is offered a bid or drops?