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Originally posted by valkyrie
If you are "taking a break," he does NOT get to go on vacation with you and your family unless the situation is resolved. PERIOD. He can't have it both ways.
Usually, I think "taking a break" is a person's way of saying "I want to break up but I'm too much of a wuss to come out and say it so let's try this" OR "I want to have sex with someone else." However, I do think it is possible, although rare, for someone to really need time to figure out what's up, which is hopefully what's happening here. If I were you I would NOT call or contact him in any way and see what happens. That will be excrutiating, but you're going to be far better off in the long run if you do that -- then, he'll come back if it's what he decides he wants and he won't if it's not, which is better than him coming back because you made him feel guilty by calling him all the time or what not. Just give him his space and see what happens.
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I concur!
back in my single days, when I told a guy that I needed a "break" - it meant that I needed a break from him while I explored something/someone else - which if that somethng else worked out, I would then go back and tell the first guy that it's over, we're too young to get serious, blah, blah, blah.
I agree with everyone else - DO NOT take him on vacation with you and your family! use this vacation as your own "break".