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Originally posted by aopirose
That's right. Usually, it's subtle. Like, "Well you know, we really want you and we think that you are a PERFECT ABC. You're smart, pretty, and outgoing. We know you think that you're considering XYZ but TRUST us, you won't fit in there. You really belong here."

As far as family ties are concerned, it can be a fuzzy line. If it is at a family BBQ, I don't consider that hot-boxing. If it is during recruitment then that is another story. Some schools allow alumnae members to participate heavily in recruitment and not just behind the scenes.

I was at an Alumnae Panhellenic funtion and a woman there had a daughter who pledged her sorority at an out of state school. She was telling us all about how her daughter was torn between her legacy and another group. Mom grabbed her ABC sister-in-law and drove to the school for prefs. During ABC pref, mom and SIL pulled Suzy to the side after all the emotional speeches. Mom looked her directly in the eyes and said, "God made us mother and daughter but only YOU can make us sisters." Poor kid didn't stand a chance. That is the Ultimate hot-box situation. Could the chapter get in trouble? Well maybe but who is going to turn their mother in? To avoid these types of situations, some schools limit alumnae members present in the room to only a chapter adviser.

WHAT!! That is *&^*& insane!! Hello Verbal Abuse!