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Originally posted by valkyrie
If you are "taking a break," he does NOT get to go on vacation with you and your family unless the situation is resolved. PERIOD. He can't have it both ways.
Usually, I think "taking a break" is a person's way of saying "I want to break up but I'm too much of a wuss to come out and say it so let's try this" OR "I want to have sex with someone else." However, I do think it is possible, although rare, for someone to really need time to figure out what's up, which is hopefully what's happening here. If I were you I would NOT call or contact him in any way and see what happens. That will be excrutiating, but you're going to be far better off in the long run if you do that -- then, he'll come back if it's what he decides he wants and he won't if it's not, which is better than him coming back because you made him feel guilty by calling him all the time or what not. Just give him his space and see what happens.
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I pretty much agree with valkyrie, but I wanted to add that I also think it's quite possible to give someone space without "taking a break". I mean, if he just wants to hang out with his friends some more to see if he misses being around you, I don't think that would have been so hard to ask for.
Do you know what he's doing with his time right now? How does it make YOU feel? If you feel you're the one doing all the sacrificing, then that's not right either.