[astroAPhi]

I think it is possible for selfish people to not want to have kids because they are selfish... but not wanting kids is not necessarily selfish. A former friend of mine didn't want kids because she is too selfish to care about anything or anyone nearly as much as she cares about herself. This isn't about a career, family, etc. It is because everything is about HER. Just to clarify, it's ok to not want kids. It's not necessarily selfish. But there are selfish people out there like the person I just talked about.

That said, I want children. I want a family. Ideally, I'd like 2 kids. I grew up an only child and so did my boyfriend, so we both know that growing up an only child can sometimes be very lonely. His dad later remarried and had 2 boys, and he absolutely LOVES his little brothers, but they aren't close enough to him in age to grow up with them.

The reason I say I want 2 is because I've seen how hard it gets to handle more than 3. I'm not saying it can't be done, but considering the career that I want to have, I want to be able to dedicate time to both career and family, and I think if I had more than 2 I'd be potentially neglecting my children.