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Originally posted by AXO4Life
Everyone I've talked to about this says it's really confusing becasue he keeps saying things like he doesnt want to break up and he doesn't want this break to be perminent and he still wants to go on a vacation with my family and I this summer. I just don't know how long I should go on with a breaking heart so that he can decide how he feels.
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If you are "taking a break," he does NOT get to go on vacation with you and your family unless the situation is resolved. PERIOD. He can't have it both ways.
Usually, I think "taking a break" is a person's way of saying "I want to break up but I'm too much of a wuss to come out and say it so let's try this" OR "I want to have sex with someone else." However, I do think it is possible, although rare, for someone to really need time to figure out what's up, which is hopefully what's happening here. If I were you I would NOT call or contact him in any way and see what happens. That will be excrutiating, but you're going to be far better off in the long run if you do that -- then, he'll come back if it's what he decides he wants and he won't if it's not, which is better than him coming back because you made him feel guilty by calling him all the time or what not. Just give him his space and see what happens.