I am one who desperately wants to have kids, but we are waiting until it is a better time for us. Mr. 1228 has one from his previous marriage (Ms. "ain't no way I am marrying a man with kids" ate her words)
My mother in law (aka Monster in Law) and i were talking about this. I was talking about my friend who doesn't want to have kids
EVER!
Hey, whatever floats your boat...
it is your body and your choice.
I admire people who say, "I don't think I would be good as a parent so I don't want kids." I wish some other people who have kids that they can't take care of (or won't) would do the same thing. Like the guy who works with me, for example. He and his wife just had their 5th kid and tries to make ends meet on food stamps and earning a base pay of $11 an hour...his wife doesn't work, and they live in a 2 BR apartment. But that is a whole nother issue.
Back to the MIL...she says:
"That is terrible! That is so selfish. Who is going to take care of them when they get old?" WTF?
Hell yeah it is selfish not to want to have kids. Then again, it is selfish to want to have a clone just like you and even more selfish to have a kid so they can take care of you when you get old.
I was reading an article about women waiting to have kids and the women over 40 having kids for the first time is increasing by leaps and bounds.
enter monster in law: "That is terrible! That is so selfish! That is horrible to do to the kid."
So since I am in my late 30s I am going to be one of those horrible women according to her.
I just said to Mr. 1228 "That is
YOUR mother!"
The funny thing is the folx who sweat me most about NOT having kids are the folx that have a hella kids who can't afford them without the state taking care of them.
It also irritates me when folx say "you will change your mind". If I do fine. If not fine. It is none of your damned business!
I just don't understand some folx logic.
